The Hanky Code emerged in the U.S. in the early 1970’s as a way to silently signal (in the back pockets) to others in the LGBTQIA+ community what you’re into and/or looking for.

Where you wear your hankies signifies what you’re into. The left side of the body signifies that you’re in a top or dominant role while the right side of your body shows you’re in a bottom or submissive role. Some vers folks tie hankies around their neck to show they could go either way, depending on their partner. You can also flag in both pockets or on the wrist.

The colors of the Hanky Code are “into” signals to people around you who know the code. To others, it’s merely a fashion accessory. This was genius because, with a simple glance, anyone who knows what’s up can give you a knowing nod, a flirty wink or use that as an excuse to buy you a drink.

Hot Tip: if you’re not sure whether someone is flagging or you can’t tell the difference between pink and magenta—just ask! Most people are happy to enlighten you, and you never know…you might make a new friend(wb). 😈